Helping Families Birth Happy Babies!
Doula FAQ
Does a doula take the place of the partner?
No. By assuring that the partner's needs are met (food, drinks and emotional
support) only then can he can give the mother his undivided attention.
This is a stressful time for both mother and partner. Partners worry they are
not doing enough or the right thing. A doula helps them to care for and
support their partner by giving suggestions, providing encouragement or giving
needed breaks during a long labor. A doula can offer the right suggestion at
the appropriate time, helping the partner use their support skills better. A
doula frees up the partner to provide uninterrupted emotional support, and
removes them from not having to play the role of advocate, liaison, educator
etc...as well as provide that all-important emotional support!
What if my doctor doesn't want a doula at the birth?
Unfortunately there are some doctors who have misconceptions
about our role. We do not make your choices for you or challenge the doctor
when a decision has to be made, but apparently some people who call themselves
doulas have done just that and have alienated doctors by their behavior. We are
glad to provide information for you to give your doctor that outlines our
standards of practice and our code of ethics. Often this clears up the
misunderstanding, but some doctors will still refuse to work with you if you
have a doula. On the other hand, many doctors actually refer their clients to
doulas. If you are planning to have a doula at your birth, you might want to
shop around for a doula-friendly practice.
Do you come to my home when I am in labor?
This is something we will go over at our first prenatal visit. I will do
whatever you want me to do. I can come to your home, or meet you at the
hospital. We will set up a tenative plan for this, but when the time comes, it
is ok to change your mind.
I am planning on having an Epidural, do I still need a doula?
Yes! A doula can provide support to you before you have the epidural.
And after, a doula can still offer ideas on pushing positions, and give your
partner a break to get food or anything he/she may need. Even with medication,
if you are given all the information you need, you will be more comfortable
during your birth.
When do I contact a doula?
It really works out well if your doula can be hired at least 4 weeks before your EDD. This way there is enough time to really get to know one another. The earlier you look the better, this way you can interview a few doulas, and make sure the one you really like is available for you.
Will my doula be offended if I ask her to leave the room?
No way. A good doula understands that her job is to do what the birthing couple
want. If that is to step out so the couple can be alone, than that is what she
does.
Amy Machado
124 Pennsylvania Avenue
Reading, PA 19606
Phone: 610.223.0011
Email:
amy@peacefulbeginningsdoula.com
